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And about navigating through this slow and turbulent process

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Most of us loved someone in our lives and had to let that someone go eventually, for one reason or another. Whether it’s been their choice, your choice, the best choice for all, or the only way, the outcome is the same — you had to end the relationship and walk your own ways.

Breakups however are abrupt sudden actions when we decide to communicate our intention to let go of the relationship. And so we do — physically, but as such, a relationship doesn’t yet end emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, with this one-time of action. …

Life-changing answers are always found in simple questions.

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This question may sound somewhat trivial and simplistic, yet it reveals a plethora of crucial information about us. It’s one of those fundamental questions to ask if we wish to understand ourselves on a very deep level.

And this evening, I asked myself the same question — out of the blue, actually. And perhaps not so out of the blue at all as there’s always a reason with a sense of purpose behind all our doing. Even if it seems, on the outside, that the reason and purpose are missing. …

Things are simple, if they seem complicated, we’ve not understood them yet.

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Learning 1:

You may have a lot to share, but first, make sure that the other party is interested, ready and willing to listen and would benefit from your sharing. Otherwise, you’re just feeding your ego as a part of an ego game, and not truly being of service to anyone other than yourself.

Everyone has a lot of wisdom within themselves, but that doesn’t mean that we all have to unload that wisdom to one another at once. And we certainly don’t need to. …

And life is writing them — creating and re-creating, constantly.

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I used to be an active writer up to a month back. I was a regular and felt the excitement and responsibility to share my thoughts, observations and perspectives, through every cell of my body as often as possible. In fact, my thoughts were sharpening and accelerating, its volume was increasing with every coming day, and then suddenly, from one day to another — I stopped writing and disappeared from Medium.

You may be asking why and how can this even happen?

Well, the short answer is — when a writer goes silent, it is not because they suddenly don’t…

By focusing on two specific areas, I found and reclaimed 20 hours per week to put towards my goals—and it made me happier, too

A yellow clock.
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Perhaps I am one of many to say that it often felt like time was just slipping out of my grasp.

I used to have all these plans of what I want to achieve in a day, week, or a month’s time, and then, days, weeks, and months were long gone and I was still far away from reaching my goals. Or, out of ten quite realistically set goals for a given time period, I only managed to fulfill a good three, and even that with difficulties.

Often, when I looked at the clock and it was 10 a.m., when…

Is there the right way to say the harsh truth?

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Dear friend and soulmate,

It’s not easy for me to write these lines because I care for you deeply, and the least I’d want to do is hurt you in any way.

At the same time, I do respect myself and our friendship, and cannot just stand there, knowing the hurricane is coming, without saying anything anymore.

I notice your little and big acts of kindness — the flowers you surprised me with upon me moving into the new apartment? The fact you spend the time out in the cold with shopping you’ve done for me, just do you can…

I can so relate with everything that you described over here, Lavender. My experience with gardening and planting flowers has been the same.

I feel so much joy, peace, relaxation and it has the same effect on me as meditation has on others.

This actually is a real-life story. No bullshit.

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Dear friend,

I thought for some time whether to share this with you as a feedback or not, but because it's still on my mind today, I decided I will.

Yesterday, when we were together, on many occasions I felt not heard and interrupted when I tried to share something valuable with you. You cut me off so many times that I lost a count of it at one point and took my thoughts ahead and tried to explain the things I was saying for me although it was me sharing how I feel in the first place. …

Life is better than average, and you too are better than that.

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Quote 1:

Any love can give you joy and happiness, even if it’s just short-term, but only true love will ever give you peace.

How do I know that? I experienced a series of relationships that were all based on love, undoubtedly. Strong love, passionate love, codependent love, needy love, paradoxical love, tough love. All these romantic loves I got to live through were the loves that brought joy and happiness to me, they did, even if it was very short-term. But none of them could ever give me peace.

It didn’t lift my soul up, it didn’t expand me, it didn’t…

The key to preventing depression and staying mentally healthy.

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“How we deal with our inner world drives everything.”— Susan David

Susan David, Ph.D. is an award-winning psychologist at Harvard Medical School, an expert on human behavior, and co-founder of the Institute of Coaching. She is the author of Emotional Agility, the concept that educates us in how to deal with our emotions effectively in an increasingly complex world.

The book became the number one Wall Street Journal bestseller, recommended by Forbes, awarded by the New York Times and the Washington Post, translated into 26 languages.

Why? Simply because we live in a society that is in a great deal…

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